Clarisonic Mia 2

If you are into beauty blogs or love makeup and skin stores than you have probably heard of the clarisonic brushes. I have read many blogs and reviews that absolutely rave about the superpowers of this magic skin care brush. So three weeks ago I caved and bought it. I bought this totally convinced I was going to love it and that it would give me amazingly beautiful skin that made angels sing and children cry from the pure awesomeness and beauty of my skin. However after three weeks of using it I have decided to return it because it is just not as fantastic as the price would indicate. So I thought I would list the pros and cons for anyone considering buying one or just eying them.

Pros:

  1. My skin was soft and felt like silk
  2. It lessened my blackheads
  3. My skin felt really clean
  4. It has a timer for the different parts of your face
  5. I felt like my cleanser, toner, and moisturizer were going deeper into my skin

Cons:

  1. It is $160
  2. It made me break out more because it was bringing stuff to the surface
  3. It makes my face really itchy and so I touch my face more
  4. I feel like my pores look larger

There are definitely some positives and it is nice but for $160 I feel the cons shouldn’t exist. I have heard that sometimes the sensitive brush is better and if you switch to that it works well, but that is another $25 on an item that I just bought for $160. About I didn’t have absolutely terrible experiences but they weren’t great either… For the price range I feel there has got to be better options available. This is a good product for some people but just be aware it isn’t a solution for everyone.

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New Years

2013 has been an amazing year!!! We celebrated our first year of marriage, moved five times, and have traveled through sixteen states. I can feel though that 2014 is going to be the best year yet and Brandon and I have lots of adventures ahead of us. Last night we took the time to sit down and write all of our New Years Resolutions down and they are now on our fridge. I thought I would share my personal ones and share a few that Brandon and I plan to do together

  1. Exercise 5 days a week (I have a goal to loose 40 pounds this year)
  2. Serve others more often
  3. Learn to style and love my naturally curly hair and get back to my natural color.
  4. Become a certified BBQ judge
  5. Get my concealed carry permit
  6. Be 100% active in church
  7. Nothing below a B in school
  8. Read at least 5 books outside of school
  9. Learn to BBQ on a legit grill
  10. Hang out with my friends more often
  11. Visit with my Aunt Kaylene more often
  12. 100% visiting teaching
  13. Learn to cook with more veggies
  14. Run a half marathon
  15. Accomplish a pinterest craft or recipe once a month
  16. Email Kathryn and Austin more often
  17. Improve my wardrobe
  18. Get back into making cakes again
  19. Learn to improve my photography
  20. Have healthier skin
  21. Go to Zumba once a week
  22. Blog once a week

A few that Brandon and I want to do together are

  1.  Learn how to Slackline
  2. Go to the temple once a month
  3. Dress up for Halloween
  4. Save at least $25 a month
  5. Buy two handguns

Happy New Year Everyone!!!

 

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5 Things I’ve Learned In My First Year of Marriage

In a little over a month my husband, Brandon, and I will have been married for one year. As someone who is still a newly wed I know I still have a lot of lessons left to learn, but I feel I have also learned so much in this first year.

1.) You can’t be embarrassed in marriage

You can’t hide your messes in marriage.Sure, you can avoid doing certain things in front of your spouse (burping, farting, having to go to the bathroom at weird times, etc) for awhile. Eventually, though, you will do something that you told yourself you would never do in front of your spouse. Remember, you live together all of the time. There is only so much you can hide until you can’t hide anymore. You can spend your life trying to avoid embarrassment, or you can accept the fact that you are a human, you make mistakes, and just laugh about it. If I gave myself a nickel every time I did something embarrassing, I would have an entire bag of nickels. Instead of crying in embarrassment, Brandon and I have instead laughed about them. Seriously, laughter is much more fun than hiding.

2.) Don’t compare your life to others

In all likelihood, suddenly everyone you know is either getting engaged, getting married, buying a house, or having a baby. With so many life changes, it can feel like the pressure is on to keep up. First comes love, then comes marriage… If you’re like me and every other newlywed I know, you will be asked The Baby Question almost from the moment you say “I do.” Once you’re married, your family and coworkers all want to know when you will be moving on to the next step. Every relationship and every circumstance is different. You can only do what’s right for you.

3.) The best things in life are free.

We are both college students, and like most college kids we are poor. Despite being poor we always have fun, and are able to show each other we love each other. One my favorite dates we have been on was where we went window shopping at the mall, went to Costco to eat free samples, and than went and used a coupon we had to split an ice cream with each other. On our six month anniversary we both knew we wouldn’t be able to afford any gifts but that didn’t stop my husband, and I came home from work to find a bouquet of flowers he had picked for me. It was the best gift he could have given me. I do love when we get to have a night out on the town or when he buys me a gift; however, my favorite memories usually involve us just snuggling up on the couch to watch a movie, or giving or receiving a thoughtful gift.

4.) Ditch your gadgets and the cyber world when spending time together.

For along time I started to get into the habit of being on the computer or Facebook when we would watch a movie together. Brandon would tell me to come over and snuggle with him and I would say to give me a minute. Well, a minute seemed to turn into an hour and by the time I was done we would start snuggling halfway through the movie. One time when I told Brandon to give me a minute, I could tell he was a little hurt. I realized that during our quality time, I was sometimes choosing Facebook over him, and I realized that was messed up. So now when we spend time together, we put the computers and our phones away and we just focus on enjoying the time we have together.

5.) Continue to fall in love with each other

Brad Paisley has a song out called “I Thought I Loved You Then” where he talks about the woman he loves. He goes through some of the important events in their life, and each time feels as if there is no way he could love her more and than the next event happens and he does. In marriage you have to continue choosing to fall in love and make time to do so. You should tell your spouse you love them often and mean it. As cliche as it sounds, continue dating each other and surprise one another occasionally. It doesn’t always take a grand gesture sometimes something as simple as vacuuming or making a treat shows can show him that I love him and appreciate him.

Our first year of marriage has been great so far. I love my husband, and I can’t wait to see what lessons I will learn in the future.

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Sexual Abuse

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This drawing was done by Jordan Dellinger. This what she wrote about it. “I’m not sure if you can tell in the scan but the little girl is blowing away statistics dealing with child molestation. I suffered sexual abuse as a child so this is a cause that I feel very close to. I think statistics don’t really teach an outside reader much about a situation. For example, if I say to you – ‘There are 60 million survivors of childhood sexual abuse in America.’ or ’95 percent of molested children know their perpetrators.’ Or, ‘The average number of victims per molester is about 117.’ or ’1 in 6 boys and 1 in 4 girls will be sexually molested by age 18.’ It is hard for it to register. When you read these statistics you have to look harder to see that each of those numbers represents an individual child, in a lot of cases more than one, who has been hurt. Each and every one of the children abused will feel the effects of their abuse for the rest of their life. These numbers can’t tell you that. Keep in mind, these statistics only involve sexual crimes against children that have been reported.”

 Too many people have to go through this and like many others I have had to deal with sexual abuse and harassment in my own life. For me it started when I moved to Idaho my sophomore year of high school. Almost immediately I had guys I didn’t know start teasing me about my body and one who dubbed me Double-D Cenzy. I was the new kid and a naive self conscience 15 year-old girl who had never been kissed or had a boyfriend and for the most part I dealt with it by being much more reserved and just tried to ignore the comments. When I was 16, I went on an FFA trip with my school for the state competition. On the way there we stayed in some cabins overnight that were along the way. Once we got there, I went and got settled in and had a younger kid in the group that knocked on our door to tell us that the other cabin was going to watch a movie and invited us. I was the last one to arrive. I looked around to see where to sit. The cabin had one couch which was completely filled and behind the couch there were two beds that each had a boy sitting on it. I decided to just stand behind the couch and kind of the by the doorway. The movie started and it wasn’t long until the boy on the bed closest to me told me I should sit down on it. I didn’t know much about him other than he was a senior, I had never even talked to him before that. He smiled at me and I figured there wasn’t any harm in sitting down. He started to get close to me and said something about how I looked tense and offered to massage my shoulders. I thought it was really weird but I said okay. He massaged my back for about five minutes and than stopped. It got to a line in the movie where a character said something to the effect of “Bros before hoes” at that point the kid looked at me and said “I would have picked the girl” and he than pulled me down to cuddle. I felt really uncomfortable at this point and whispered that I couldn’t see the movie to which he replied,”that I could come over anytime and watch it at his place.” I started to freak out and tried to push away from him but the more I pushed the tighter he squeezed me. I should have yelled or said something but I didn’t want to make a scene. He started to touch my thigh and than my stomach and I became paralyzed. I couldn’t believe this was happening there were other people in the room, there was a guy on the bed next to us, I kept praying that one of them would turn around or just say something, or that I could say something, but it didn’t happen. One girl did walk into the cabin towards the end of the movie and gave me a weird look when she sat down but her attention was than glued to the movie like everyone else. The movie finally ended and I was able to sit up. My head felt like it was spinning, I felt like I couldn’t figure out what had just happened. The boy whispered to me that he wanted to walk me back to my cabin. I felt sick and knew I didn’t want that to happen so I made sure we left when everyone else did and pretty much ran into my cabin. The rest of the trip I tried my best to ignore him. He would wolf-whistle to me though and kept trying to get me to go on walks with him or go hang out with him and would walk up to me and start trying to massage my back. Luckily the girl who had walked in that night and gave me the weird look and started to tell him that if he tried to touch me she was going to push him off a bridge. After the trip I totally avoided him. I called my best friend back in Washington and cried while telling her what happened but I never reported him to anyone or told my teachers or parents.

 In the years since that first big incident I have had other incidents. I had a guy in Oregon in my apartment complex that followed me one night and before I went in he tried to kiss me and he groped me. He was totally drunk and was with his buddies and at that time. I was furious instead of scared and found the strength to report him. I have had to deal with a boss who wouldn’t stop asking me out in front of my coworkers and having his brothers tell me things like I should give him a lap dance. I never reported them since they were the owners. It just got to the point where I quit. This last summer I was a door to door saleswoman and had a married guy politely decline the product I was selling. He continued to chat with me about his wife and kids and about my husband. He asked if I needed a glass of water or if I needed to use the restroom at all. I accepted to use the bathroom because he seemed nice and normal and I assumed his wife and kids were home and when I got in the bathroom I had a really weird feeling. So I just hurried up and finished and when I got out of the bathroom he was there. He started to say something and I told him I needed to get back to work and thanks. He just told me to wait and and than asked me if I had had fantasies of being with someone after knocking on there door. I was shocked and he continued with saying that his family and wife was out of town I told him no and I had to go to which he responded that his wife would be gone a week and I could come back any time. I left quickly and was so confused and hurt. I told people I worked with but never reported this.

All of these things were awful and caused me a lot of heartache and confusion, but I know I am lucky that they weren’t worse. I feel sad that things happen to children, other women and sometimes men but hope that those who have go through similar experiences can feel that they aren’t alone and that it is okay to speak out. My biggest regret and for most of these incidents is not reporting them at the time. Most of the time I felt ashamed or like it was my fault and so I didn’t speak up, but for those who are harassed or abused it is not your fault. I also hope that by sharing things like this people will realize it happens more often than they think to real people and it is more than just a statistic.

Cute diy knife block

 

So I haven’t posted in a while. Brandon and I moved into a three bedroom apartment and its wonderful 🙂 We absolutely love it.  We didn’t have any knives so I went to the thrift store today and bought a knife block and knives to go with it. It was pretty dull so I bought some  cute scrap book paper and mod podged it on. I love the results 🙂